After reading my post “Nothing is better than love in this world”, I was asked to write on ‘How to move on after breakup’ with someone you love unconditionally and wholeheartedly. A girl with age in mid 20s came to me and said that she broke up with her boyfriend and not able to move on having said this she broke down in tears rolling down her cheeks. she then wiped her tears and told the reason for her breakup and started crying again. I don’t care for who was responsible for their separation only I can see that she was sad at that time. I gave her glass of water and ask tried to make her understand not to give up.
I told her that the first step towards getting somewhere is to decide that you are not going to stay where you are. Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened. Because anyhow that guy did not have time for her (as she said and I understood. I don’t know because might be this girl was having high expectations from him. So I cannot be so judgmental) though he being very sincere and hardworking in his office work but was never with her when she was upset and used to run away and did not participate in serious and important discussions (one he used to call arguments) and used to talk to her when he is free and when the girl herself managed to get out of stress.
Remember that nothing is permanent. So don’t stress yourself too much because no matter how bad the situation is now, it will definitely change. Let go of the things that can no longer be fixed. If you try to force them back together, things will get worse. You may be tired, discouraged and frustrated but don’t give up on your future. Our God is faithful. Sometimes removing something out of your life makes room for better things. You may not understand today or tomorrow but eventually God will reveal why you went through everything you did. God has chosen you to make you a blessing to many. Don’t blame situation. Don’t blame the person instead thank him for what have you learned from him/her. Never ever try to hurt them or take revenge in future.
Sometimes missing that person becomes a habit, we want to or we don’t want to but we do it anyway. Not a problem. Take all the time you need to heal emotionally. Moving on doesn’t take a day. It takes lot of little steps to be able to break free of your broken self.
Mistakes are painful when they taken, but years later a collection of mistakes called EXPERIENCE which leads to SUCCESS. In the end only three things matters: how much you loved, how gently you lived and how gracefully you let go of things not meant for you. Switch your mentality from “I am broken and helpless” to “I am growing and healing”. Just breathe. You are strong enough to handle your challenges, wise enough to find solutions to your problems and capable enough to do whatever needs to be done…