Two days back my friend called me talking about her roommate that, “It had been nearly an year of her breakup, and even then I found her in room way too often, usually crying and stalking him on social media. I made her read your blogs , she feel very strong after reading those but then its temporary and now I don’t know how to help her to get over her ex boyfriend”.
After talking to her roommate, I understood that she act normal like nothing went wrong, everything is at place, Whereas loses her control and gets irritated over small things after a specific period (say if she is okay for 30-40 days, then she burst with anger for no reason and gets upset, that take her 5 steps back).When I asked her, “Do you still feel for that guy?” She said, ‘Not really’ but the way she answered my questions I felt she is still in a phase not ready to accept anything. If you are in same state, let me help you to figure it out so that you can Work for it.
After the end of a relationship, it’s totally normal to feel depressed and think that you will never find anyone you like or love as much. There may be days, weeks, or months during which you listen to a same song you two used to listen to on repeat. But what if these thoughts and feelings become overwhelming? At a certain point, you have to ask yourself: Am I still stuck with him or her? Maybe yes, if you prevent yourself from starting new relationships because you are consumed by the love you still feel for him or her. You look through all of the old pictures you took together,You Check their Social Media Feeds you try not to do it, but you can’t help yourself. You Cannot Delete their Photos though you have pretended to delete them, of course, but you have transferred them to that, tiny pen drive.When You Hear their Name,Your heart leaps. Doesn’t matter if it’s someone else with the same name, it’s just the sound of ‘his name’.you still feel like something is missing.you get emotional when you are around something that reminds you of your ex.
What Are You Going To Do About It? You have three options:Carry on as you are, pining and missing him; Make an attempt to reunite with him; Let him go. If You are Ready to Move on after a Breakup, if your thoughts have shifted away from your relationship, that is a positive sign. You are beginning to think more about your life without your ex than your life with your ex .when you’re ready to move on, you will likely have a more balanced view of what went wrong in your relationship.
The healing process happens differently for everyone, depending on the person’s personality, circumstances, and the nature of their relationship as well as the way it ended. if you have accepted that it’s over, that’s one clear indicator that you’re getting ready to move on.
This is one of the most painful and irritating processes because let’s be honest, human beings just hate being patient. We want everything RIGHT NOW, but the heart doesn’t work like that. There’s no question, whatever you try and resist will persist. So if you force yourself to stop thinking about your ex, that will ultimately be the only thing you can think of. Weird but true. So stop obsessing and just allow yourself to think about your ex. Let the thoughts flow through your mind and don’t try to interfere with them. Accept the thoughts and replace them with take action steps to get past them. You need to have self-control and determination to control your thinking but you can do it if you choose to.
It really doesn’t matter the circumstances surrounding your breakup. Do not blame yourself. Take an attempt at blaming the relationship itself and not you or your ex personally. This will give you the window of opportunity to move on and not feel any guilt at all. Nobody goes into a relationship looking to break up. It happens and you’ve just got to deal with it and move on. End of story. No doubt it’s important to understand the brokenhearted process and if you want to heal completely, you just can’t skip it. It’s important to learn how to feel sad and more importantly give yourself permission to go through the process. One surefire reason for not being able to get passed your ex is because you have ignored the process. You need to learn to accept and let go. You also need to learn how to handle the hurt caused by losing someone who was once special in your life. It’s okay to feel sad it’s something you need to do. In order to heal yourself emotionally and spiritually, you need to accept your strengths and weaknesses and learn how to heal yourself. “Having a positive vision for your future can help to make that happen.”