We all have heard that we should accept our current circumstances or issue and be happy with the way things are. Unfortunately, just telling yourself to accept the way things are, doesn’t actually work much for you; does it? At the end of the day, words are just words. Most importantly, thinking you have accepted your problems even when you are only struggling with them will lead to more frustration and dissatisfaction with your current mind state.
Obviously ignoring the issue stops you from worrying about it, but only for a little bit. You can go days, weeks, even months ignoring a pending issue in your life. When you ignore a problem, you only create more pain and frustration than you began with.. When a person who under stress decides to drink alcohol to block the difficulties, it definitely works till the next day, so when bad feelings come, he drinks again. So far so good, short term. In the long run, however, that person will develop a bigger problem of addiction. The more you avoid, the weaker you feel.
When our stress isn’t handled, our minds and bodies are affected. When you feel frustration, anger, or pain your body’s nervous system tells your heart rate to increase, raising your blood pressure. There are various healthy ways of expressing yourself when issues arise in your life; we just need to find one. But it is possible only when your mind settles and detaches you from the events and thoughts you come across, you will be able to quickly deal with and accept your feelings.
Many of us struggle to recognize and accept our emotions and therefore are not in a position to manage our emotions in a helpful manner. Even If we do notice our distressing emotions, we often don’t accept them, because we don’t like the idea of being angry or anxious or jealous, it doesn’t fit with our self-image or we worry that other people won’t like it. Your emotions will be under your control when you become completely aware of them. When you’re confident and secure with yourself you will be able to validate and accept your feelings.
Acceptance means that you don’t have to spend your energy pushing the emotion away. When you accept the emotion, you are giving yourself a chance to learn about it, become familiar with it, become skilled in its management, and integrate it into your life. Understanding, accepting, and working with reality is both practical and purposeful denying your current reality will not make it make it go away. Remember, you will never be able to create the right reality if you aren’t willing to let the wrong reality go. Dealing with the bad stuff is a way to get to the good stuff–but it takes practice & practice. You have the strength within to realize you control your reality and you’re the only one who can change it.